We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.
The one thing that is kind of gratifying, in a way that I am now just learning, is that once the cover letter is sent out and the interview is over, it’s entirely out of my hands. There is simply no point in worrying over things that we can’t control. Someone sitting at her desk may open your email, look at your email, shove your email off until Friday at 3 p.m., or start writing a bunch of responses to your perfectly fine and beautiful email, and get distracted halfway through, only to return to her desk at 6:30 p.m., late for dinner, or the gym, or just ready to go home. Someone may decide that you’re perfect for the job, but then can’t hire you because there is simply no money, or because their boss went on maternity leave and Rhoda from HR is a real pain, and forgetful to boot, so that resume you sent in got swept into the recycling bin with those unsolicited faxes the all-in-one printer keeps spitting out. It’s irrelevant. The reasons are beyond your ken. All you have to do is persevere.